A Moment of Respect.
A Moment of Respect… In response to the racial tension taking place across our country, I have decided to pause content. I care deeply about matters of injustice, and of course, am against violence to any human regardless of race, religion, sexuality, etc. To be completely honest, I wish I knew the right response to convey here on these pages. Therefore, I have decided to step back and take a moment to reflect. My mother’s most impressionable message has always been to treat others the way you would like to be treated. I hope that we all can take the time today to think on this timeless Golden Rule.
I posted this on Instagram and thought it should be added here as well…
I am deeply saddened by the matters of injustice and racism spreading throughout our world, and I have decided to pause content for the moment. I wish I knew the right response to convey here on these pages, but what I know is that this is a time for change. I know I will never understand the pain of being judged by the color of my skin, but I will continue to do my best and educate myself. Breaking it down to the basics, I think we must all remember the Golden rule of treating others the way you would like to be treated.
Campaign Zero is a resource I’ve donated to and found helpful during this time. Their vision has resonated with me and they are working on providing solutions.
Sending so much love to our community during this time ♥️ Photo by: @CampaignZero
A Moment of Respect
<3 thank you for doing this
❤️ xTieghan
These days are so hard. Thank you Teighan, for doing this.
“It is not our part to master all the tides of the world, but to do what is in us for the succour of those years wherein we are set, uprooting the evil in the fields that we know, so that those who live after may have clean earth to till. What weather they shall have is not ours to rule.”
J.R.R. Tolkien, The Return of the King
❤️ Thank you for reading xTieghan
One of the bright spots in my life right now has been my favorite bloggers (such as yourself!) carrying on content, bringing a semblance of normalcy to our lives. While everyone is different and I understand you may be struggling right now, as an African American woman it’s hard for me to comprehend responses like this. I hope to see you back soon.
Thank you Mary ❤️ xTieghan
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❤️ xTieghan
Big respect. Thanks for doing this. Content can always wait. BLM! <3
Exactly. Thank you Emily ❤️ xTieghan
Hi Tieghen, totally respect your decision. Sending lots of love and strength from India.
Thank you Sheenam. ❤️ xTieghan
Thank you for acknowledging the heartache in our country. I also do not know the right course of action but am willing to wait, and listen and be still.
Thank you Ellen ❤️ xTieghan
Hi Tieghan – I am a huge fan of HBH and all your recipes, But as a Black woman, while I appreciate what I think the sentiment is here–particularly your honesty on not knowing quite what to say–I think this post could’ve been better. It is a hard to tell just who or what this message is for. “Racial tension” is a few steps removed from what we’re dealing with here, which is racism, and not saying so only gives more power to racist structures and systems by allowing them to act in overt and covert ways. Reflecting is critical, but it is equally important to use your platform and power to act and empower your nonblack and non-POC followers to act in the name of justice for every American. And I love the Golden Rule. It’s also one of my favorites. But it’s important to contextualize it, name who has *not* been treated fairly throughout this country’s history, and figure out how Americans, especially white Americans, can do more in the present to right these egregious wrongs. I hope you see this criticism as the act of care and love that I mean it as, and I hope you’ll use it to inform how you might respond in the future.
Hi Lea! Thank you for leaving this. I hope you know I only meant good from posting this on my platform. I want this post to show others to educate themselves as well on what is happening in our world. I think that is the best way for change. I love that you left this comment. I think this is such a great way to respond to each other and help each other grow. Please leave other organizations or ways to help if you can! ❤️ xTieghan
Thank you. This is all so hard to watch. Our nation is is so much pain. Praying for you and your family, Teagan. I’m feeling the same way right now. Please take care of yourself, its important to do that when you’re grieving.
Thank you Jill ❤️ xTieghan
I appreciate your kind and gracious soul. Take ALL of the time you need, we’ll be here when you want to come back.
Thank you Gina ❤️ xTieghan
Thank you to Lea for her post. For some reason I can’t reply directly to your comment but wanted to let you know that I appreciate the points that you outlined. It’s educational for me as a white woman and value the time and effort that you put into posting.
Thank you Rebecca xTieghan
I understand and respect your decision. It’s hard to know what the right move is, but it’s certainly a valid choice to take a step back and keep the focus on what’s most important right now, which is taking a stand against our country’s systemic racism. I am keeping myself educated and donating support as much as I can and I hope you are finding a way to get involved too.
Looking forward to your future content when our country is a safer and steadier place for all. <3
Thank you Laura. Educating is the best way to go and I am doing the same. ❤️ xTieghan
I hope you’re back tomorrow <3 Cooking is such a wonderful outlet and your recipes are a bright spot!! XO
❤️ xTieghan
I live in a suburb of Minneapolis and I am absolutely distraught about George Floyd’s death. I am so angry. I am in such deep sorrow for the Floyd family and all the other families who have had to go through this. I have watched in disbelief and I know there is nothing I can do or say to defend this city or state. I don’t care what anyone says, we all have some degree of bias or racism. Our job is to recognize it and ask ourselves why and call others out too. If I am as angry as I am, I can’t imagine how marginalized populations feel. I am sorry.
I completely agree. I hope you are staying safe and participating where you can.❤️ xTieghan
When an elderly white woman approached a black NFL player and said, “You matter” and then cried in his arms, he had this response, “Beautiful people still exist in this world,” Jones said. “We just got to love each other. We got to lean on each other. We got to listen to each other.” Jones said he didn’t get the woman’s name, but wants to thank her for giving him “peace.” This doesn’t solve the problem of racism, bias, and hate in this country, but it helps to acknowledge that most people are good and mean well. I am white, but in my life experience, black men (and women) have been role models to me (a teacher, a pastor, a supervisor, a client, a fellow believer, a friend). My life is richer because of each one of them. They didn’t judge me for my skin color and I didn’t judge them. Yes, I saw and still see them as black, and I believe because of their life experience they have a wisdom, a humility, and a graciousness that came from their suffering. The rioting, looting, the judgments about what we “should” be doing just adds to the chaos and confusion. Let’s build up one another so we have a strong foundation on which to make long lasting change.
I loved reading this Jacqueline. Love is always what we need. Thank you for sharing this. ❤️ xTieghan
Thank you for this show of support. It is much appreciated.
❤️ xTieghan
Tieghan, in your case, you bring joy and love of food for our families into our homes. Here we can escape the nonsensical acts of violence. Our son, in LA, was trying to escape the angry mob after he was let off work later than expected. They were coming from Long Beach toward the cars driving out of LA. They began climbing on top of cars, dragging people out of cars and beating them up. Our son was blessed to escape out of traffic. Keep doing what you do to remind us all of beauty in family meals.
Thank you Kimberley. I am really sorry to hear that and I am so glad he is okay. ❤️ xTieghan
VERY WELL SAID i AM LIKE YOU!
Thank you so much Marybeth! xTieghan
Thank you for posting about Campaign Zero. I first saw it on your post on Instagram; I was previously unaware. Thank you also for taking a pause. I understand you prefer to keep your blog and postings about your chosen field, but these are unprecedented times. #Black Lives Matter.
Thank you Margot ❤️ xTieghan
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Heartfelt thanks, Teigan.
❤️ xTieghan
Teighan, I respect your decision. It is always a good idea for each one of us to pause and reflect on how we can make things better, be better.
Yes. Be better, everyday. Love that. ❤️ xTieghan
Thank you, Tieghan. It is so nice to know that I can admire your cooking talent and your personal values.
❤️ Thank you Susan xTieghan
We all handle these situations very different. That’s what the human race is… different and I hope we can start celebrating our differences instead of letting it divide us. Thank you for all you do. There will be brighter times on the horizon.
I agree. One day at a time ❤️ Thank you Heidi xTieghan
Thank you to Lea. I am learning and listening and truly appreciate your taking time educate in your vital post.. Swede, no need to defend your great city…systemic racism is universal and global, We have to wake up, we have to change. Peace and comfort to George Floyd’s family.
❤️ Thank you Karen xTieghan
Tieghan,
Thank you. This issue is deeply personal to me and I am heartbroken. I don’t know what the answer is, but this helps. ❤
Thank you Patti ❤️ xTieghan
i also don’t know what to do to effect real change but i think that it’s awesome that you are marking the enormity of the problem and sharing campaign zero information. your voice is powerful and i’m thankful that you’re using it to recognize racial injustice – thank you!!
Thank you Meghan. Each of us are more powerful and influential than we think. Just being better and learning day by day is helping tremendously. xTieghan
Weak. Your recipes bring joy and you should be strong in dealing with this. Sad to see you’ve caved into making a “statement” by giving up. Cooking brings people together, to talk. And talking can breach many problems. Very disappointed on your cookie cutter response.
Hi Sara. I think that every person is different in how they deal with things like this. This was not intended to be a cookie cutter response, but one that is of a great cause. I am continuing to educate myself on the situation and I hope everyone is doing the same. For now, lets treat each other with love. ❤️ xTieghan
Thank you for your response. There is no “right” thing to say; no one knows what that is. But to take a moment to step back and show respect is important.
Thank you Patricia ❤️ xTieghan
Our mothers were right. I have lived by that ruleall my 75 years. That you for sharing.
They always are. Thank you Karen ❤️ xTieghan
Wait so how long of a break are you taking..? I was hoping for a fresh new recipe to try out this week, it’s such a good, healthy escape from everything going on in our world. Please come back!
I am really glad my recipes are a peaceful place for you all ❤️ xTieghan
Thank you for posting a beautiful picture in response to this recent tragedy. I don’t find having all of these black pages on Instagram to be inspiring. Of course, the horrific death of a black man is the focus. I understand that totally. What I don’t understand is, where is the sympathy for all of those black shop owners who no longer have a way to earn a living because now they have nothing left but destruction. I live here. This area looks like a war zone. Many of the residents in this area do not have any way to even travel for groceries, medical care, etc.
Fortunately, now food is at least being provided by the giving communities of Minneapolis and St. Paul. Just one person’s opinion.
Hi Bev. I feel terribly for all of the small shop owners who rely on those businesses to provide for their families. I think that this situation and people needed to be heard and now it is our part to help and educate. Please let me know if there is anyway I or someone else reading these comments can help your city. We should all be in this together. xTieghan
Thank you for your reflection & inspiration ❤️ I hope we can all help each other stay safe and emerge as better humans after this very sad and scary time.
Thank you Debbie ❤️ xTieghan
De acuerdo!!!
❤️ xTieghan
There is a reason that this is one of my favourite blogs. Thank you for pausing. Thank you for your comments. Thank you for using your platform to be reflective. This (black) home cook thanks you.
Thank you. I love having this community of people that support each other and causes like this one. ❤️ xTieghan
De acuerdo totalmente
Tieghan, your content is such a bright spot in my inbox, and on the internet. Your choice to pause your content momentarily is a poignant acknowledgment of the influence you have. Thank you for modeling what is required by all of us if we want to see change: to set aside our own priorities and plans to allow space for the anguish that we all feel. When we resume our activities, it must be with a somber recognition of how our actions affect others and a commitment to remain mindful of and intentional about creating the world we want for ALL people. I personally cannot understand what it is like to be Black in America, but I choose to stand WITH and appreciate you using your platform to do so publicly.
Thank you for this Melissa ❤️ xTieghan
@ lea – thank you for your post. I agree that “racial tension” was not the right term to use. Please continue to teach me. Thank you.
Yes! This is amazing. I love that we can help each other here. Thank you Mary. ❤️ xTieghan
Tieghan;
you’re damned if you do and you’re damned if you don’t. No one knows what is in your heart and soul but you. If you feel you need to do this then it should be respected and not trashed by other comments regardless of the colour of ones skin!!
Take care for now
Thank you Char ❤️ xTieghan
Respect to you for addressing what needs to be acknowledged by every white person in order for change to truly begin.
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One love. ❤️ xTieghan
I actually agree with Sara (mostly) – Taking a day to acknowledge is one thing but for a white woman to take a week off when she’s not even in an affected city/not out protesting is not a good look. Granted I don’t know how long of a “break” you’ve taken so maybe I’m mistaken. But I do hope you’re back soon!
Hi Kym. Thank you for you view on this. I am out trying to support and help my community and others through this. I think being respectful to all and helping each other is what we need most right now. xTieghan
Hey Tiegan,
I so appreciate your dedication to your craft on this blog and think this post on “acknowledging racial tension” is a first step in the right direction however, as a black woman I hope that you will be moved to soon use your voice to advocate against racism. I honor that staying silent is perhaps what you need right now, but you being loud about racism and all the ways some non-POC contribute to it is what black America needs.
Also, I too use your content as a happy escape so I hope to be able to enjoy some beautiful new recipes again soon.
Best,
Melanie
Thank you so much Melanie. This was really nice to read. I am very grateful for you and the community here. xTieghan
I understand your concern and appreciate your ability to reach out to as many as possible to reflect on what is happening during the riots. Having many friends as police, firefighters, a husband who has served for 30 years army. I would suggest watching the show cops. Sounds stupid but you will see how the real professionals police handle very tough situations that are and should have been simple police stops. There will always be bad people who take advantage of power. We see this all throughout history. The biggest problem is that black people are taught to run from police which inadvertently can end badly. I have helped homeless and poor neighborhoods my entire life. Most homeless like the gypsy life. Another problem is not having a safe and controlled way to handle mental illness. They can be a great part of life but just can not deal with taking medication it is so sad to see them doing well then they aren’t. I am just a simple mom who has volunteered my entire life. Whom ever is funding and pushing these riots is the true perpetrator of injustice. Why are we not focusing more on how the justice system has arrested the police officer and fired the others. This justice system is why America is strong. I try to teach constitution week each year to all ages. It is celebrated in September as a national holiday declared by president Eisenhower. We are safer as civilians if we know how our constitution protects us. Bless you and your family.
My daughters and I all have your cookbook and follow you on Instagram
Thank you for this Michelle. I hope you and your family are staying safe as well. xTieghan
Thank you.
❤️ xTieghan
I’m very impressed by this gesture and your messaging. Kudos to you. Be safe!
Thank you Becca ❤️ xTieghan
Thank you for this message. Compassion and sensitivity for the pain of others and a demand for justice is so needed right now.
It truly is ❤️ xTieghan
Thank you 🙏🏾
❤️ xTieghan
Respect. Of all the posts I’ve read over the past week, you, Tieghan, are the first to use that word. Thank you for practicing what your Mother taught you.
Thank you Mary ❤️ xTieghan
Your Mother is a very smart lady!! It is so much easier to love than to hate.
Thank you Nancy xTieghan
Thank you for your thoughts. I we all need to be not only deeply worried but work toward a solution. Hope your day is a truly fruitful one.
Thank you Catherine xTieghan
Thank you. It is time these voices were heard and real change takes place.
Thank you Tieghan so much for doing this. Pausing content just to bring awareness shows your beautiful stance on humanity. I love your recipes and always come by your blog and honestly couldn’t be more thankful for what you’re doing.
Thank you Charmaine ❤️ xTieghan
Thank you For this Teighan.
God bless you.
God help our nation/ world.
Thank you Valerie ❤️ xTieghan
Thank you!
❤️ xTieghan
They’ve done it. The domestic terrorists who wantonly destroy personal property and livelihoods without respect for our personal freedoms and sense of safety. These terrorist groups have no compassion for the suffering of human beings or for the physical and emotional damage they do. They’ve done it. They’ve thrown a brick through your beautiful window. Mission accomplished. I join people from around the world who were shocked and incensed by what happened to George Floyd. I believe in peaceful assembly to draw attention to injustices and to effectuate change. The violent part of these protests does nothing to rally people to support a cause. The intent is to intimidate. Tieghan, you are not responsible for terrorists’ violent actions. I sense you’re saddened and disturbed, and maybe feel a little guilty. Don’t be. You bring beauty, joy, and respect to those around you and to those of us who appreciate what you do and who you are. My advice, and it’s only that, is to stand up straight, take a deep breath, fix your window, and continue to do what not only brings you joy but is the joyful part of life you bring to all of us. Stay strong.
Thank you Linda ❤️ xTieghan
Beautiful post Tieghan, your mother taught you well… stay safe
Thank you Lori and likewise ❤️ xTieghan
Thank you so much for giving us some reflection this morning. I honestly paused for a moment. This picture is so beautiful it brought me to tears. Keep posting dear T! I look forward to seeing them every day. Xoxoxo xoxo.❤️
Thank you Janelle ❤️ xTieghan
Thank you so much for this. As a women of color with a biracial child who has suffered horrific name calling/ bullying as early as her third grade year by a teacher and then again in high school by a few parents, I really appreciate You taking a stand. You don’t have to know what to say. Your acknowledgment of the injustices taking place is enough. Thank you
Thank you Kim. I am sorry to hear about what has happened, but I am glad you chose to forgive and help others. ❤️ xTieghan
This was beautifully said as it comes from your heart ❤️
It’s unfortunate that you can’t share your thoughts without being told what you should or shouldn’t be saying or doing at this time.
Thank you Mary ❤️ xTieghan
Thank you, I totally agree, this country has lost respect, period. If we had respect for one another, this world would be a better place.
All we can do is be better each day. Thank you xTieghan
Thank you for posting A Moment of Respect.
❤️ xTieghan
Thank you for this. I agree with Lea’s comment that it’s sort of bland, probably because you don’t know what to say, but specifically addressing what is happening is good. Black Lives Matter is not hard to write, although so many are stopping short of saying so. I appreciate the attempt.
xo
Thank you Keri ❤️ xTieghan
Hi, Tieghan ~~
You have done nothing wrong here, and in my eyes you have done a lot right. You are simply acknowledging, by basically saying you are holding your own vigil and moment of silence with a pause in recipe content, the crisis around us. Silence/meditation/reflection/prayer is not a simplistic response, and it does not fail to acknowledge the experiences of others. It can be a very profound reaction, and a pause can give enough breathing space, as you say, to then move into action. I appreciated knowing about the organization you mentioned, as I had not heard of it before. Since I believe the protests are, in effect, about everyone’s children – because we want a better world for them – if it is helpful, there are free resources for teachers called “Teaching Tolerance” from the Southern Poverty Law Center, one of the nation’s premiere organizations fighting racial injustice. I can only speak from my own experience. I am the Caucasian parent of three children of Caucasian, Japanese, and African-American descent, all of whom have experienced racism in this country. My children have all worked in various ways for justice. I fear for them sometimes; and of course I am also proud of them. I am also the daughter of a history professor, the late Eckard V. Toy, Jr., who spent 30 years of his life teaching about racism in the U.S., and about hate groups like the KKK, the Possse Comitatus, the John Birch Society, the Proud Boys, and all the others. Justice begins with listening to each other. You gave us a platform on which to do that. You have begun a dialogue. That takes courage and wisdom. Thank you.
Hi Terry
Thank you so much for this, I really appreciate you taking the time to respond to this post. We do all want a better world for our children and families, even if we don’t have them yet. I hope you and your family continue to stay safe and hopefully see a changed world. If you have anymore information to share, please feel free to do so! Thank you again ❤️ xTieghan
Food brings people together and heals. Pausing content, especially new recipes with upbeat accompnanying essays, is the opposite of what you should be doing during these difficult times.
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts on this, as I really do appreciate hearing from you guys. I am pausing content to take my own space to pause, reflect, listen and learn. I hope you understand. xTieghan
you said it perfectly. i was raised the same way, treat others the way you want to be treated, with respect. i was never taught the color of ones skin, economic situation, looks, you help when people need your help. thank you for this. take care
Thank you Dawn xTieghan
Thanks for this resource and I agree, it’s difficult to know what to say to convey sadness and frustration and a sense of helplessness how to effect real change. Reflection is definitely in order for all of us.
Thank you Malia xTieghan
I almost agree. I used the same statement that respect is treating people how I would like to be treated. In a recent course I had it twisted, it could be said that it is treating people how THEY want to be treated. Depending on who you are this is actually much tougher.
Thank you for this Terri. I think it could go hand in hand, but right now, I completely agree. xTieghan
I agree with CMS… I think we can all take solace in your recipes right now. Why take that comfort away?
Hi Swede. Thank you for this. I am taking the time for myself to pause and reflect on the situation right now. This is time that I personally need right now. Thank you for understanding. xTieghan
Thank you for this!!! Black lives matter
❤️ xTieghan
How can you acknowledge and condone these riots . . . and with respect? I bet you would have a different view point if the riots were outside your door and they targeted your new barn? I believe in protesting, but they are no longer protests once they go beyond peaceful. There is no excuse for what is going on period!!
Hi Paul. Im sorry if you misunderstood this post, but I never stated that I agree with the rioting and destruction going on right now. I believe in a peaceful protest and am reflecting on what I can do now to help better our country. I think we really all need to stand together right now. xTieghan
Thank you for sharing the conversation. I respect your voice and using your platform for positive change, compassion and education. Your followers care about this issue.
Thank you Susan xTieghan
Thank you for posting information about Campaign Zero. I was not aware of them until I saw this and I agree that their approach makes the most sense in this difficult time. I have donated and shared their information. The Golden Rule also resonates with me and I thank you for reminding us all how simple, yet important that is.
Thank you so much Stephanie. xTieghan
I have learned a lot from reading the comments by your readers, Tieghan. I am surprised by how many of them are telling you how to be. I appreciate your honesty and pausing content because you feel that is what you need to do to show reflection and understanding, One doesn’t have to have proximity or be out protesting to decide to pause for personal reflection. Systemic racism and injustice have no boundaries, the proximity is wherever we are. Thank you Tieghan for doing whatever you feel you need to do to do the same and giving us opportunity to be honest too. Be who you are, you are fine!
Hi Karen
Thank you so much for this comment. It is really nice to see understanding during this time and we should all help each other up! xTieghan
Michelle Lupomech’s comment below states that the reason most black people see bad outcomes to police arrest is because they were “trained to run” (George Floyd, among many others, was handcuffed and on the ground when he died, and he was kneeled on for 9 minutes, so that is just a lie). She also says that the riots are being funded. Neither the riots nor the protests are being funded by any outside agents. First of all, the VAST majority of what is occurring is PEACEFUL protesting. Second of all, it is occurring because people are rightfully fed up with what law enforcement is doing to people – murder – not because of some nefarious mysterious “actor” paying for them to occur. That is a conspiracy theory. She manages to be both racist, blaming black people for their OWN MURDERS at the hands of the police, and spreading conspiracy theories to undercut legitimate anger at the consequences of that racism.
Tieghan, you responded to her comment with “Thank you for this Michelle. I hope you and your family are staying safe as well.” If you want to be an ally, you need to call this out as unacceptable. Or at bare minimum not prop her up and make her feel like you accept her views. Maybe you didn’t understand what she said, but then please try to read more carefully in the future.
Hi Claire. Thank you for bringing this to my attention as I did not understand her comment as you are explaining it. And quite frankly I am upset that I did not understand it this way. Thank you for this. I apologize for overlooking her comment and not reading it thoroughly. I love that you all are coming on here and teaching myself and others what is happening and how we can help. These conversations are so important! I hope this can remain a safe space to do so ❤️ xTieghan
Thank you for this post. I was raised by the Golden Rule and my husband and I also raised our children by it too. Our world would be a much better place if we showed more respect to one another. It’s sad to see the peaceful demonstrations overshadowed by the rioting and destruction. Thank you for your words. To me, you said it perfectly. Take care.
Thank you Jen. That will always be such an important lesson xTieghan
Thank you. 🙏❤️
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And yet you have no compunction about throwing together cheap ingredients and claiming it’s a beloved, sacred International dish. You narcissitic millennials are so phony and full of yourself. Pausing your blog doesn’t do anything to help racism. You don’t even KNOW what would help because you’re an undereducated child who made it big off of tweaking other people’s recipes.